RSVP's

Brindi Pixie · 30-08-2007, 14:33

Why is it that people will RSVP yes as soon as they receive an invite and then turn around and say that they are unable to attend 2 days before the event??!! This really pisses me off.
I can understand when someone says I've got to work - especially when their work hours depend on the weather (beekeepers for an example) or when you've applied to have the time off and the boss doesn't give it to you. I understand those things.....i honestly do because i've been in that situation a couple of times.

But when people have RSVP'd 3-4 weeks before the event and then contact me 3 days before saying that they can't come that really pisses me off!!

Honestly, do people really think that everything gets paid for on the night?? NO, it doesnt. You need to pay a deposit on the room hire, a deposit on the food. And then you have to give final numbers to the venue so that they ensure that there is enough food to cater for everyone - hence the reason that there is a RSVP date - so that you can let the venue know how many to expect. My RSVP date was two weeks ago - i put a two week gap in there so that i could chase people i hadn't heard from - which i had to do!!

It makes it even worse that I am paying for this party out of MY birthday money from my parents. So out of the money i'm getting as a present i'm spending about 65% on this party. Not to mention the money i've already spent out of my own pocket to ensure that this party is a good one.

It's really rude to RSVP yes as soon as you receive the invite and then turn around 3 days before the event and say no, sorry i can't go.

So, there it is - I'm pissed off!

BeautUtes

Running On Empty · 30-08-2007, 14:35

I totally agree Gem... i am always chasing people up for stuff

Brindi Pixie · 31-08-2007, 07:46

Big Unit - it wasn't the fact that i had to chase some people to know what they were doing, it's the fact that some people said that yes, they were coming and then turned around two days before the party and said that they couldn't attend. It's thrown me out a little bit with the budget aspect of things. Not to mention cutting back the numbers.

And mix this issue in with everything else gone wrong and you've got one unhappy lil Gem!!

IC BIATCH 69 · 31-08-2007, 09:50

Hey Gem
i totaly agree with ya on the rsvp thing . people just dont understand the reason for the rsvp maybe they should have a party , ,send out invites and put the rsvp thing on and then at the very last minute have people say they are not coming and then that way they will know how much it pisses people off
any way mate i hope everything goes off with a bang
cheers mate

BeautUtes

Brindi Pixie · 31-08-2007, 09:52

Thanks Maz!!

I'm just hoping that it doesn't rain!!! That would just top it off!!

Bekieboo · 31-08-2007, 10:54

Yeh Gem, people just don't get the effort required to organise an event that needs rsvp's. I always have a back up list, so if there is a problem with people pulling out at the last moment, not all is lost.
Some people may think it's rude that if they weren't invited in the 1st place, then why should they attend just to make up numbers, but if you explain that it was a matter of numbers & cost, that you really wanted them there right from the beginning & that now that people you felt obliged to invite can't make it, you would love it if they could. They are usually pretty cool with that.
Good luck with the party, I'll keep my fingers crossed for no rain!!

Brindi Pixie · 31-08-2007, 11:44

Bekie

I could do that if it wasn't a dress up themed party!! Thanks for your advice

30-08-2007, 14:33	#1 (permalink)
Brindi Pixie Status: Beaut Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Esperance Posts: 276 Rep Power: 4	RSVP's Why is it that people will RSVP yes as soon as they receive an invite and then turn around and say that they are unable to attend 2 days before the event??!! This really pisses me off. I can understand when someone says I've got to work - especially when their work hours depend on the weather (beekeepers for an example) or when you've applied to have the time off and the boss doesn't give it to you. I understand those things.....i honestly do because i've been in that situation a couple of times. But when people have RSVP'd 3-4 weeks before the event and then contact me 3 days before saying that they can't come that really pisses me off!! Honestly, do people really think that everything gets paid for on the night?? NO, it doesnt. You need to pay a deposit on the room hire, a deposit on the food. And then you have to give final numbers to the venue so that they ensure that there is enough food to cater for everyone - hence the reason that there is a RSVP date - so that you can let the venue know how many to expect. My RSVP date was two weeks ago - i put a two week gap in there so that i could chase people i hadn't heard from - which i had to do!! It makes it even worse that I am paying for this party out of MY birthday money from my parents. So out of the money i'm getting as a present i'm spending about 65% on this party. Not to mention the money i've already spent out of my own pocket to ensure that this party is a good one. It's really rude to RSVP yes as soon as you receive the invite and then turn around 3 days before the event and say no, sorry i can't go. So, there it is - I'm pissed off! __________________ Cheers, Gemma The kingswood is the girlfriend - i'm just the mistress.... http://groups.msn.com/brindiboysuteclub

30-08-2007, 14:35	#2 (permalink)
Running On Empty Status: Hardcore Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Not quite city, not quite country Posts: 2,167 Rep Power: 4	Re: RSVP's I totally agree Gem... i am always chasing people up for stuff __________________ I've been to... Wangaratta, Dunnolly, Carlton, Camperdown, Calder Park, Queenscliff, Korumburra, Whittlesea, Heathcote, Toolleen, Colac, Berwick, Elaine, Wandong, Elmore, Epping, Lang Lang, Bacchus Marsh, Mansfield, Alexandra, Carribean Gardens, Barmedman, Deniliquin, Bundoora, Cobram, Kyneton, Clunes, Bunyip The Lord Made The World And All The Pretty Girls But The Devil Made The Truck Drivin' Man

31-08-2007, 07:46	#3 (permalink)
Brindi Pixie Status: Beaut Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Esperance Posts: 276 Rep Power: 4	Re: RSVP's Big Unit - it wasn't the fact that i had to chase some people to know what they were doing, it's the fact that some people said that yes, they were coming and then turned around two days before the party and said that they couldn't attend. It's thrown me out a little bit with the budget aspect of things. Not to mention cutting back the numbers. And mix this issue in with everything else gone wrong and you've got one unhappy lil Gem!! __________________ Cheers, Gemma The kingswood is the girlfriend - i'm just the mistress.... http://groups.msn.com/brindiboysuteclub

31-08-2007, 09:50	#4 (permalink)
IC BIATCH 69 Status: Beaut Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: queanbeyan Posts: 728 Rep Power: 3	Re: RSVP's Hey Gem i totaly agree with ya on the rsvp thing . people just dont understand the reason for the rsvp maybe they should have a party , ,send out invites and put the rsvp thing on and then at the very last minute have people say they are not coming and then that way they will know how much it pisses people off any way mate i hope everything goes off with a bang cheers mate __________________ blonde dyed black......artificial intellegence

31-08-2007, 09:52	#5 (permalink)
Brindi Pixie Status: Beaut Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Esperance Posts: 276 Rep Power: 4	Re: RSVP's Thanks Maz!! I'm just hoping that it doesn't rain!!! That would just top it off!! __________________ Cheers, Gemma The kingswood is the girlfriend - i'm just the mistress.... http://groups.msn.com/brindiboysuteclub

31-08-2007, 10:54	#6 (permalink)
Bekieboo Status: 100% country Diva!! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Wamuran, Qld Posts: 1,023 Rep Power: 3	Re: RSVP's Yeh Gem, people just don't get the effort required to organise an event that needs rsvp's. I always have a back up list, so if there is a problem with people pulling out at the last moment, not all is lost. Some people may think it's rude that if they weren't invited in the 1st place, then why should they attend just to make up numbers, but if you explain that it was a matter of numbers & cost, that you really wanted them there right from the beginning & that now that people you felt obliged to invite can't make it, you would love it if they could. They are usually pretty cool with that. Good luck with the party, I'll keep my fingers crossed for no rain!! __________________ out here every good lookin’ daughter would make you swear theres somethin’ in the water…

31-08-2007, 11:44	#7 (permalink)
Brindi Pixie Status: Beaut Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Esperance Posts: 276 Rep Power: 4	Re: RSVP's Bekie I could do that if it wasn't a dress up themed party!! Thanks for your advice __________________ Cheers, Gemma The kingswood is the girlfriend - i'm just the mistress.... http://groups.msn.com/brindiboysuteclub

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