Single Parent's on Beaututes

MrsPotatoHead · 10-09-2007, 19:19

G'day,

Just wondering who is a single parent on here?

I guess I've classifed a single parent as someone who is not still together with the other parent of their child/children. I have a Boyfriend but I still classify myself as a single mum!

What are some of the ups and downs you have faced since spliting with your partner?

In the dating world, do you think it has helped or hindered you from finding another relationship partner?

BeautUtes

Running On Empty · 10-09-2007, 20:19

Good thread Carlie, as a single dad for the last few weeks I'm finding a lot of new experiences. I must admit there's really no stigma attached with it, probably because its so much more common and accepted these days.

My former partner still tries to manipulate me and make life difficult in every way she can (nothing has changed from when we were together then) and from what i can gather being a single mum hasn't stopped her from "meeting" men, but lets not go there.

I'm finding it hard not having my own house and I know I'm getting in the way at my parents place, especially on the days I've got TLU but they won't say anything.

I'll keep visiting this thread as I find new experiences happening. It could also be a good outlet when she goes out of her way to make me unhappy.

rowdy1 · 10-09-2007, 21:41

i'm single and i'm a mother to 2 beautiful kids - funny thing was i didn't really think of myself as a single mother til one of my old friends told me i wasn't the same person anymore cos i was a single mother.

the first time i went out after i had left my ex i was chatting to some bloke (not even realising that he was flirting haha) as i was about to leave the pub he asked me out for the sunday night - i told him that i was doing something that night but was free in the afternoon - we'd made plans and swapped numbers then he asked me what i was doing - i said i had to pick my kids up - was obvious that it freaked him out a little - but he sent me a message b4 i even got home saying that he was looking forward to seeing me the next night - I haven't heard from him since - 6 months down the track now hehe

Another night i had been dancing with someone and chatting, getting along quite well, then i dropped in the kid thing - he left to get a drink - never to be seen again lol

But i've had positive experiences too - was really worried when i started seeing someone new cos i hadn't mentioned the kids when we met (i don't talk about them all the time - doesn't always come up) so when i rang him i was really nervous - but he just said "yeah ok, and?"

still haven't met anyone that i'm serious enough about to introduce to the kids - so will have to cross that bridge when i come to it

Running On Empty · 10-09-2007, 21:44

I actually find that TLU is the main topic of converstion

BeautUtes

Chookie · 10-09-2007, 22:28

Hello Im new to the site and I'm a single mum to a handsom & hyper 2 year old boy.

I have been a single mum right from the word go, my ex and I split up after we found out I was pregnant so I went through the whole lot on my own but I kind of liked it that way anyway, I would rather go through it alone being happy than being with someone and unhappy.

I have dated a couple of times since having my son and just got out of a really bad long term relationship so I would definately have to say, for me, I am better off on my own.

Relationships is one thing but dating is another and I always believed that dating is just a bit of harmless fun with a guy you get along with but its not easy to find dates as you are automatically steriotyped.
Personally I am not looking for a committed and serious settle down and have a family kind of relationship but allot of guys assume that.
I am quite happy being on my own, paying my own bills and doing things my own way. I'm still young and im not ready to "settle down" so to speak, I still have goals and ambition and I can still have fun in the mean time too.

The only relationship I have with his father is only concerning Lachlan so the only notes I have are from the relationship I just got out of where I saw myself and my son in danger. and since it was the first time I have ever lived with someone it means that I will be very reluctant to do it again lol.

Since I have been single I have learned that I have to be myself, I have a son and I shouldnt have to change for someone else, nor do I expect anyone to change to fit in with us either.

Ive done allot of soul searching since and I just dont fit in in the city and I need to stay away from city guys, I found out who my real friends are when I had my son and found out I really had none here at the end of the day, the only tru friends I still have are the ones I grew up with in the country.

What are some of your experiences Milfy?

Mec

Wombat · 10-09-2007, 23:03

hi all well im a single dad and i am lucky one of my sons come,s to most of the ute shows and rodeos with me and he camps out in his swag on the ute with me my other son i onle see a few times a year as for finding some one i always menchin my kid so if thay dont like the idear then no one gets hert i know one day i will fined some one that will like the idear of shearing my life and doing thing as a family and if she has kid all the better cos i see the country life being better for the kids to see that we have fun and respeck each other .

Running On Empty · 11-09-2007, 11:16

Well said Wombat

The thing I find is that people don't like referring to me as a single dad because my son doesn't live with me

Bekieboo · 11-09-2007, 12:26

Quote:

Originally Posted by Wombat

hi all well im a single dad and i am lucky one of my sons come,s to most of the ute shows and rodeos with me and he camps out in his swag on the ute with me my other son i onle see a few times a year as for finding some one i always menchin my kid so if thay dont like the idear then no one gets hert i know one day i will fined some one that will like the idear of shearing my life and doing thing as a family and if she has kid all the better cos i see the country life being better for the kids to see that we have fun and respeck each other .

I agree with you 100% Wombat!!

BeautUtes

Bekieboo · 11-09-2007, 12:29

Sometimes being a single parent is better for all concerned.
No unhappy relationships that the kids need to witness every day, and no heartbreak if they attach themselves to a new partner, and the relationship doesn't work out.
It's hard work, but at the end of the day, the kids have to come first!!

Unit: Even if you don't spend each and every day with your kid, your still a parent and that will never change.

10-09-2007, 19:19	#1 (permalink)
MrsPotatoHead Status: Beaut Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Blowhard Vic Posts: 850 Rep Power: 15	Single Parents on Beaututes G'day, Just wondering who is a single parent on here? I guess I've classifed a single parent as someone who is not still together with the other parent of their child/children. I have a Boyfriend but I still classify myself as a single mum! What are some of the ups and downs you have faced since spliting with your partner? In the dating world, do you think it has helped or hindered you from finding another relationship partner? __________________ Have a YARN - Young Australian Rural Network www.yarn.gov.au - A great way to keep in touch, share ideas, get informed, and strengthen networks. Last edited by MrsPotatoHead; 10-09-2007 at 21:38.

10-09-2007, 20:19	#2 (permalink)
Running On Empty Status: Hardcore Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Not quite city, not quite country Posts: 2,166 Rep Power: 4	Re: Single Parent's on Beaututes Good thread Carlie, as a single dad for the last few weeks I'm finding a lot of new experiences. I must admit there's really no stigma attached with it, probably because its so much more common and accepted these days. My former partner still tries to manipulate me and make life difficult in every way she can (nothing has changed from when we were together then) and from what i can gather being a single mum hasn't stopped her from "meeting" men, but lets not go there. I'm finding it hard not having my own house and I know I'm getting in the way at my parents place, especially on the days I've got TLU but they won't say anything. I'll keep visiting this thread as I find new experiences happening. It could also be a good outlet when she goes out of her way to make me unhappy. __________________ I've been to... Wangaratta, Dunnolly, Carlton, Camperdown, Calder Park, Queenscliff, Korumburra, Whittlesea, Heathcote, Toolleen, Colac, Berwick, Elaine, Wandong, Elmore, Epping, Lang Lang, Bacchus Marsh, Mansfield, Alexandra, Carribean Gardens, Barmedman, Deniliquin, Bundoora, Cobram, Kyneton, Clunes, Bunyip The Lord Made The World And All The Pretty Girls But The Devil Made The Truck Drivin' Man

10-09-2007, 21:41	#3 (permalink)
rowdy1 Status: Feral Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Adelaide Posts: 94 Rep Power: 2	Re: Single Parent's on Beaututes i'm single and i'm a mother to 2 beautiful kids - funny thing was i didn't really think of myself as a single mother til one of my old friends told me i wasn't the same person anymore cos i was a single mother. the first time i went out after i had left my ex i was chatting to some bloke (not even realising that he was flirting haha) as i was about to leave the pub he asked me out for the sunday night - i told him that i was doing something that night but was free in the afternoon - we'd made plans and swapped numbers then he asked me what i was doing - i said i had to pick my kids up - was obvious that it freaked him out a little - but he sent me a message b4 i even got home saying that he was looking forward to seeing me the next night - I haven't heard from him since - 6 months down the track now hehe Another night i had been dancing with someone and chatting, getting along quite well, then i dropped in the kid thing - he left to get a drink - never to be seen again lol But i've had positive experiences too - was really worried when i started seeing someone new cos i hadn't mentioned the kids when we met (i don't talk about them all the time - doesn't always come up) so when i rang him i was really nervous - but he just said "yeah ok, and?" still haven't met anyone that i'm serious enough about to introduce to the kids - so will have to cross that bridge when i come to it

10-09-2007, 21:44	#4 (permalink)
Running On Empty Status: Hardcore Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Not quite city, not quite country Posts: 2,166 Rep Power: 4	Re: Single Parent's on Beaututes I actually find that TLU is the main topic of converstion __________________ I've been to... Wangaratta, Dunnolly, Carlton, Camperdown, Calder Park, Queenscliff, Korumburra, Whittlesea, Heathcote, Toolleen, Colac, Berwick, Elaine, Wandong, Elmore, Epping, Lang Lang, Bacchus Marsh, Mansfield, Alexandra, Carribean Gardens, Barmedman, Deniliquin, Bundoora, Cobram, Kyneton, Clunes, Bunyip The Lord Made The World And All The Pretty Girls But The Devil Made The Truck Drivin' Man

10-09-2007, 22:28	#5 (permalink)
Chookie Status: Feral Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Armadale WA Perth Posts: 134 Rep Power: 2	Re: Single Parent's on Beaututes Hello Im new to the site and I'm a single mum to a handsom & hyper 2 year old boy. I have been a single mum right from the word go, my ex and I split up after we found out I was pregnant so I went through the whole lot on my own but I kind of liked it that way anyway, I would rather go through it alone being happy than being with someone and unhappy. I have dated a couple of times since having my son and just got out of a really bad long term relationship so I would definately have to say, for me, I am better off on my own. Relationships is one thing but dating is another and I always believed that dating is just a bit of harmless fun with a guy you get along with but its not easy to find dates as you are automatically steriotyped. Personally I am not looking for a committed and serious settle down and have a family kind of relationship but allot of guys assume that. I am quite happy being on my own, paying my own bills and doing things my own way. I'm still young and im not ready to "settle down" so to speak, I still have goals and ambition and I can still have fun in the mean time too. The only relationship I have with his father is only concerning Lachlan so the only notes I have are from the relationship I just got out of where I saw myself and my son in danger. and since it was the first time I have ever lived with someone it means that I will be very reluctant to do it again lol. Since I have been single I have learned that I have to be myself, I have a son and I shouldnt have to change for someone else, nor do I expect anyone to change to fit in with us either. Ive done allot of soul searching since and I just dont fit in in the city and I need to stay away from city guys, I found out who my real friends are when I had my son and found out I really had none here at the end of the day, the only tru friends I still have are the ones I grew up with in the country. What are some of your experiences Milfy? Mec

10-09-2007, 23:03	#6 (permalink)
Wombat Status: Feral Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: craigieburn Posts: 94 Rep Power: 4	Re: Single Parent's on Beaututes hi all well im a single dad and i am lucky one of my sons come,s to most of the ute shows and rodeos with me and he camps out in his swag on the ute with me my other son i onle see a few times a year as for finding some one i always menchin my kid so if thay dont like the idear then no one gets hert i know one day i will fined some one that will like the idear of shearing my life and doing thing as a family and if she has kid all the better cos i see the country life being better for the kids to see that we have fun and respeck each other .

11-09-2007, 11:16	#7 (permalink)
Running On Empty Status: Hardcore Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Not quite city, not quite country Posts: 2,166 Rep Power: 4	Re: Single Parent's on Beaututes Well said Wombat The thing I find is that people don't like referring to me as a single dad because my son doesn't live with me __________________ I've been to... Wangaratta, Dunnolly, Carlton, Camperdown, Calder Park, Queenscliff, Korumburra, Whittlesea, Heathcote, Toolleen, Colac, Berwick, Elaine, Wandong, Elmore, Epping, Lang Lang, Bacchus Marsh, Mansfield, Alexandra, Carribean Gardens, Barmedman, Deniliquin, Bundoora, Cobram, Kyneton, Clunes, Bunyip The Lord Made The World And All The Pretty Girls But The Devil Made The Truck Drivin' Man

11-09-2007, 12:29	#9 (permalink)
Bekieboo Status: 100% country Diva!! Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Wamuran, Qld Posts: 1,023 Rep Power: 3	Re: Single Parent's on Beaututes Sometimes being a single parent is better for all concerned. No unhappy relationships that the kids need to witness every day, and no heartbreak if they attach themselves to a new partner, and the relationship doesn't work out. It's hard work, but at the end of the day, the kids have to come first!! Unit: Even if you don't spend each and every day with your kid, your still a parent and that will never change. __________________ out here every good lookin’ daughter would make you swear theres somethin’ in the water…

11-09-2007, 17:03	#10 (permalink)
MrsPotatoHead Status: Beaut Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Blowhard Vic Posts: 850 Rep Power: 15	Re: Single Parent's on Beaututes