In love after a day??? come on!!!

trashman · 12-10-2006, 04:03

ok im going to have a bit of a winge here

i just don't understand how ppl can say there in LOVE after only knowing some one for a weeks or two or say there in a relashonship after a day i mean come on ???

these things take time to develop feeling for some one and to work out if there the right person for you ...
i can understand saying you can see the posability of loveing the person and spending some length of time with them but confessing your undieing love for them after a day wats with that???

ok this is how it breaks down for me
0-3 months your seeing each other
3-6 months there ya GF / BF
6-12 months then your in a relashonship

as for the love thing well that comes in good time and when it feels right ... but bon't say it to me befor 3 months ...

i understand that there may be expshons to the rule ie you may have knowen each other for a long time befor you hooked up ... so on and so forth...

So whats ppls thoughts on this mater?

BeautUtes

Skank+Ho Racing · 12-10-2006, 10:06

Well, me and my misses hooked up the same day we met, but I can't say I remember when I first told her I love her. Perhaps after a few weeks.

I agree, love is something that takes time, but sometimes you can just be with someone and it feels right.

THE FLYING SCOTSMAN · 12-10-2006, 10:11

i must say jay the first day me and the ute hooked up it was love at first site and has been ever since. hey dont tell ness

Woohaha · 12-10-2006, 10:14

Hahahaha you idiot Willie, good point tho

BeautUtes

doc · 12-10-2006, 10:15

me n my fella were mates for a while before we hooked up, but even so im not one to say i love you until i really feel it, and it takes a while to get past that initial lust/"puppy love" stage and know that its the real deal. That time frame differs too i believe, depending on the people involved in the relationship.

wraithe · 12-10-2006, 10:16

I dont know how you can fit a timeline into things trashy but people quite often confuse love with lust....
The latter is what draws most people together and is what gets in the way of a good friendship...Lust does not make a great relationship or good friendship but can kill them both....
Love in a friendship can keep that friendship together through thick and thin...
and helps to make a great relationship...
People learn as they get older to distinguish between LUST and LOVE...
Don't confuse the 2 and things will go better for you, lust is just an urge where love is a lot more...
There are no exceptions to lust or love, they are different to each other...

Woohaha · 12-10-2006, 10:26

Well said Kathy

Jen · 12-10-2006, 11:38

I have said i have been in love before but the truth is you know it when you find it and i never belived in that LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT but hay it happened to me and i am the happiest i have been for many years i dont have to watch what i say and all the rest that some know. To me the love is when you cant stop thinking of that person and await them coming home and you want to touch them all the time even if its just to hold there hand and your not worried about what other people think about them.

BeautUtes

TanUteGirl · 12-10-2006, 12:39

I guess it always depends on the individual situation but the closest thing I've ever had to "love at first sight" was after having composed a mental "list" of requirements for my next fella. I'd come out of a bad relationship and wanted something in particular if I was to enter another one. Met a guy who fit every single category on the list to a tee and couldn't believe my luck. Married the guy after 4 years of bliss and the marriage didn't last 3 years. Great learning experience! But you are definitely right Kathy, lust will render your common sense useless in the beginning so all of it will seem perfect, until you really get to know the person. If lust at first sight can last past the lust (say that really quickly...) then it probably will become love at first sight!?

trashman · 12-10-2006, 13:02

Quote:

Originally Posted by wraithe

I dont know how you can fit a timeline into things trashy but people quite often confuse love with lust....
The latter is what draws most people together and is what gets in the way of a good friendship...Lust does not make a great relationship or good friendship but can kill them both....
Love in a friendship can keep that friendship together through thick and thin...
and helps to make a great relationship...
People learn as they get older to distinguish between LUST and LOVE...
Don't confuse the 2 and things will go better for you, lust is just an urge where love is a lot more...
There are no exceptions to lust or love, they are different to each other...

well said Kathy and kinda backs up my piont it would seem to me that the ppl that say the L word after a day ... i evan know some ppl who have said it befor they evan hooked up with them ... have not lurnt to desingwish betweel love and lust and puppy love,

it worys me when some one says it to me too fast becose i figer it takes a long time to get to know some one and if they say it i think thay have a image of wat they wont you to be and when you don't meet there expectashons there disapointed and it can corse problems...

ps im not really puting a time line on things but thats just my sort of thoughts and every partnershinp is differant ..

12-10-2006, 04:03	#1 (permalink)
trashman Status: Hardcore Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Wolf Creek... lol Wongong Posts: 1,194 Rep Power: 4	In love after a day??? come on!!! ok im going to have a bit of a winge here i just don't understand how ppl can say there in LOVE after only knowing some one for a weeks or two or say there in a relashonship after a day i mean come on ??? these things take time to develop feeling for some one and to work out if there the right person for you ... i can understand saying you can see the posability of loveing the person and spending some length of time with them but confessing your undieing love for them after a day wats with that??? ok this is how it breaks down for me 0-3 months your seeing each other 3-6 months there ya GF / BF 6-12 months then your in a relashonship as for the love thing well that comes in good time and when it feels right ... but bon't say it to me befor 3 months ... i understand that there may be expshons to the rule ie you may have knowen each other for a long time befor you hooked up ... so on and so forth... So whats ppls thoughts on this mater? __________________ *Chassing down the dream* *Project Black Opps :* *The NED* *comming in late 2008* *Principle Owner :COMET* *Work hard play harder* *Live my life like my mum told me not to* *With a ute under foot* *a rum in one hand and a pie in the other* *i only have one question?* *WHO THE HELL IS STEERING?*

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Skank+Ho Racing Status: Sexy beast! Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Pakenham Posts: 53 Rep Power: 4	Re: In love after a day??? come on!!! Well, me and my misses hooked up the same day we met, but I can't say I remember when I first told her I love her. Perhaps after a few weeks. I agree, love is something that takes time, but sometimes you can just be with someone and it feels right.

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THE FLYING SCOTSMAN Status: 2006 Champion Street Ute Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: GOSNELLS Posts: 1,572 Rep Power: 11	Re: In love after a day??? come on!!! i must say jay the first day me and the ute hooked up it was love at first site and has been ever since. hey dont tell ness __________________ COUNTRY OR CONCRETE WE ARE ALL HERE TO HAVE FUN JESTERS UTE CLUB

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Woohaha Status: Not God, just God-like... Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: West Coolup Posts: 1,577 Rep Power: 4	Re: In love after a day??? come on!!! *Hahahaha you idiot Willie, good point tho* __________________ *And I heard a voice in the midst of the four Beasts, and I looked and behold, a pale horse,* *and its name it said on him was Death, and Hell followed with him.* *www.Paull-Warner.com.au*

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doc Status: May 2006 Best Chicks Ute! Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: - Posts: 2,423 Rep Power: 22	Re: In love after a day??? come on!!! me n my fella were mates for a while before we hooked up, but even so im not one to say i love you until i really feel it, and it takes a while to get past that initial lust/"puppy love" stage and know that its the real deal. That time frame differs too i believe, depending on the people involved in the relationship. __________________ Psycho but Sweet... Evens things out

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wraithe Status: Manji Nutter... Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Manjimup Posts: 419 Rep Power: 3	Re: In love after a day??? come on!!! I dont know how you can fit a timeline into things trashy but people quite often confuse love with lust.... The latter is what draws most people together and is what gets in the way of a good friendship...Lust does not make a great relationship or good friendship but can kill them both.... Love in a friendship can keep that friendship together through thick and thin... and helps to make a great relationship... People learn as they get older to distinguish between LUST and LOVE... Don't confuse the 2 and things will go better for you, lust is just an urge where love is a lot more... There are no exceptions to lust or love, they are different to each other... __________________ I got lost in thought, it was unfamiliar territory... "Men are proof that Women can take a joke" "CUTE-but kind of evil"

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Woohaha Status: Not God, just God-like... Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: West Coolup Posts: 1,577 Rep Power: 4	Re: In love after a day??? come on!!! *Well said Kathy* __________________ *And I heard a voice in the midst of the four Beasts, and I looked and behold, a pale horse,* *and its name it said on him was Death, and Hell followed with him.* *www.Paull-Warner.com.au*

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Jen Status: Jen Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Wyuna east Posts: 749 Rep Power: 3	Re: In love after a day??? come on!!! I have said i have been in love before but the truth is you know it when you find it and i never belived in that LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT but hay it happened to me and i am the happiest i have been for many years i dont have to watch what i say and all the rest that some know. To me the love is when you cant stop thinking of that person and await them coming home and you want to touch them all the time even if its just to hold there hand and your not worried about what other people think about them.

12-10-2006, 12:39	#9 (permalink)
TanUteGirl Status: November 2006 Best Chicks Ute Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Darwin Posts: 577 Rep Power: 3	Re: In love after a day??? come on!!! I guess it always depends on the individual situation but the closest thing I've ever had to "love at first sight" was after having composed a mental "list" of requirements for my next fella. I'd come out of a bad relationship and wanted something in particular if I was to enter another one. Met a guy who fit every single category on the list to a tee and couldn't believe my luck. Married the guy after 4 years of bliss and the marriage didn't last 3 years. Great learning experience! But you are definitely right Kathy, lust will render your common sense useless in the beginning so all of it will seem perfect, until you really get to know the person. If lust at first sight can last past the lust (say that really quickly...) then it probably will become love at first sight!? __________________ AS SILLY AS A BUM FULL OF SMARTIES